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Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Be Compassionate for Life if you want to be TRULY Productive!

GREED is NOT GOOD!. Giftalism - Focus on building communities instead of Commodities. Build an Ecosystem for the GOOD! Generosity is Generative. It creates new value! Stop blind consumption and start GIVING without expecting RETURNS! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p_QLGvp_stI

Monday, August 4, 2014

Aasra in Fact checker

Monday, June 30, 2014

Write-up on Aasra in the BBC

Write-up on Aasra in the BBC

Write-up on Aasra in the BBC

4 December 2012Last updated at 14:50 GMT

Shantanu Negi’s Facebook suicide prompts shock in India

By Shalini Joshi Dehradun
 64542907 64542444 Write up on Aasra in the BBC Shantanu Negi’s friends initially believed his Facebook post to be a joke
An Indian student has killed himself after posting a Facebook suicide note.
“Bye everyone… I will miss you… I quit,” wrote Shantanu Negi, 16. Police think he was worried about an exam.
His friends initially believed it to be a joke, with many “liking” his last post and others commenting on it before they found out what happened.
Counsellors working with the social media site to improve reporting and support say many such cases in India are referred but few result in death.
Shantanu’s death occurred at home in the northern town of Dehradun on Monday evening.
Within hours, as the news of the suicide spread, his shocked friends started writing condolence messages.
“Shantanu killed himself because he was worried that he won’t do well in his mathematics examination,” police officer Dinesh Singh Bhandari told the BBC.
A student of class 11 in the prestigious Asian School, Shantanu was a good student who had scored 90% marks in his class 10 examinations.
“Recently, he seemed to have lost interest in studies. We had talked to him about it, but there was no pressure on him,” his father Pushkar Negi said.
From his Facebook profile, Shantanu appeared to be like any other happy and carefree teenager and his school said there had never been any complaints about him.
Helpline Last year, Facebook launched a system to allow users in India and elsewhere to report friends who they think may be contemplating suicide.
In India, the social networking site added the Mumbai-based Aasra suicide prevention helpline – part of the Befrienders Worldwide/Samaritans network – as part of its suicide risk alert system.
Johnson Thomas of Aasra told the BBC that in the past year they had intervened in more than 300 cases forwarded to them by Facebook.
Once a case has been flagged by worried friends, trained counsellors from the helpline email users offering to help them.
“We tell them we are worried and concerned about them. We cannot invade their privacy, but we request them to call us,” Mr Thomas said.
“Very often they do and we talk them out of it. Some just stop posting such messages because they realise they have friends who care for them.”
Mr Thomas says Shantanu “needed reassurance that not performing well in one exam is not a reason to kill himself. We all need people around us to support us.”

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  • 07 MARCH 2011, TECHNOLOGY
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  • 7 March 2011Last updated at 16:58 GMT

    Facebook adds Samaritans suicide risk alert system

     51567014 009793180 1 Write up on Aasra in the BBC
    Rory Cellan-Jones shows how the system works
    Facebook is launching a system that allows users to report friends who they think may be contemplating suicide.
    The feature is being run in conjunction with Samaritans, which said several people had used it during a test phase.
    Anyone worried about a friend can fill out a form, detailing their concerns, which is passed to the social networking site’s moderators.
    It follows reports of several cases where Facebook users announced their intention to commit suicide online.
    The reporting page asks for the address (URL) of the Facebook page where the messages are posted, the full name of the user and details of any networks they are members of.
    Suicide-related alerts will be escalated to the highest level, for attention by Facebook’s user operations team.
    Police alert “When a report is made, they then assess whether they need to call the police immediately or forward it on to us,” said Samaritans’ Nicola Peckett.
    Facebook said that it had always been its policy to notify police if a user was at risk of imminent bodily harm.
    The system had been operating in a trial mode, without publicity for three months, during which it received several genuine reports and no hoaxes, according to Samaritans.
    It is hoped that the new reporting mechanism will help prevent cases like that of Simone Back, who died on Christmas day after taking a drug overdose.
    The charity worker from Brighton had written about her intention to kill herself on her Facebook page.
    Several of her friends commented on the message, however no-one raised the alarm.
    Samaritans said that the new system was not launched in relation to one specific case, but to raise awareness of the ways in which people could get help.

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  • India police investigate Bangalore ‘Facebook suicide’

     55530827 304272 144213685674025 144211935674200 214402 21190822 n 1 Write up on Aasra in the BBC Malini Murmu was reported to be upset by ‘derogatory’ Facebook comments
    Police in India are looking for the former boyfriend of a student who allegedly committed suicide after he ended their relationship on Facebook.
    Malini Murmu is reported to have hanged herself on Sunday in Bangalore. Her father has demanded that her former boyfriend, Abhishek Dhan, be arrested.
    Police say they are investigating whether the comments on Facebook amount to aiding and abetting suicide.
    The whereabouts of Mr Dhan – also a student – are currently unknown.
    Malini Murmu was a first year MBA student in the Indian Institute of Management (IIM) in Bangalore.
    Ms Murmu’s family say that Mr Dhan’s Facebook account contained derogatory references to her – now deleted – which “forced her to take such a drastic step”.
    In the comments on Sunday he wrote about being “relieved” and “feeling cool” after “dumping his girlfriend”. The pair had reportedly had a row earlier on.
    Ms Murmu’s father told the BBC that her death had left the family devastated.
  • 27 JUNE 2012, INDIA
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    27 June 2012Last updated at 07:23 GMT

    Why are young Indians killing themselves?

     61189786 017f8cd7 85e7 447a a1dd ec0166725b19 Write up on Aasra in the BBC Suicide has become the second leading cause of death among young Indians
    In the end, wrote Albert Camus, one needs more courage to live than to kill oneself.
    If new research is to be believed, a disturbingly high number of young Indians are losing the courage.
    study published in the medical journal The Lancet shows that suicide has become the second leading cause of death among the country’s young adults, after road accidents in men, and childbirth-related complications in women.
    There were 187,000 deaths from suicides in India in 2010, the study says – this is higher than the official figure of 134,599 suicide deaths from the National Crime Records Bureau. (Researchers attribute this gap to under-reporting or misreporting as friendly or bribe-seeking coroners often sign off suicide deaths as ones caused by accidents to protect the victim’s family from police harassment and social stigma.)
    If the findings by a team of doctors are to be believed, 40% of the men and 56% of the women who took their lives in 2010 were aged between 15 and 29 years.
    The suicide rate in Indian women aged 15 years or older is more than two and a half times greater than it is in women of the same age in high-income countries, and nearly as high in China. The corresponding rate in men in the same group is between one to two times greater in men of the same age in high-income countries.
    I asked Dr Vikram Patel, a leading Goa-based psychiatrist and professor at the London School Of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine, who co-authored the study, about why he thought this was happening.
    He believes that joblessness for men and post-marriage problems for women trigger off a lot of these suicides. “In women it manifests in depression, in men it becomes a drinking problem,” he says.
    India is a society steeped in the patriarchal tradition, where most women are still expected to stay at home, and bring up children. But more and more women are stepping out to work and aspiring to be independent and successful. But pressures of family, demands for dowry and domestic harassment – and violence – push many such young, married women over the edge in the country’s teeming cities and towns.
    “This is what I call the aspirational reality gap,” says Dr Patel. “Exposure to global media, education doesn’t match up to the realities at home. A touch of anomie worsens matters. Suicide is seen as a potential way out of it.” Perhaps not surprising in a society which lives with one foot in tradition, and the other in modernity.

Aasra in Scroll.in on the New mental health Bill 2013

Government's move to decriminalise suicide is half-hearted
The Mental Health Bill says that suicide cannot be prosecuted. But it remains a criminal offence under the Indian Penal Code and allows for people who attempt to take their lives to be incarcerated in institutions.



Amendments to the Mental Health Care Bill were approved by the cabinet on Thursday, in an attempt to protect the rights of people suffering from mental illness. But experts have criticised its provisions relating to suicide, even though the proposed legislation claims to decriminalise the action. Unless the Indian Penal Code is also changed, they say, people who attempt to take their own lives can still be prosecuted.

“At the end of the day, suicide will still be a crime,” said Amba Salelkar, a lawyer and disability and mental health rights activist. “If suicide were truly being decriminalised, legislators would have removed it from the IPC itself.”

The bill will be tabled in the Lok Sabha in the budget session in February. The original draft of the bill was filed in the Rajya Sabha in August 2013. A parliamentary committee on health and family welfare submitted their review of changes to the union cabinet.

At present, attempting to kill oneself is illegal under section 309 of the Indian Penal Code, and can be punished by a year in prison. The Mental Health Care Bill says that notwithstanding the IPC, anyone attempting suicide “shall be presumed...to have severe stress at the time of attempting suicide and shall not be liable to prosecution and punishment."

It goes on to state that it is the government’s responsibility to help ensure that those who have survived a suicide bid do not attempt it again. This clear puts all those who attempt suicide under the health care provisions of the bill, one clause of which includes the right of the government to incarcerate people of unsound mind for up to three months against their will.

By retaining IPC legislation and classifying suicide as a mental illness, the bill effectively gives the government the right to incarcerate anyone in a mental institution if suspected of having attempted suicide, experts say.

“If suicide were truly being decriminalised, legislators would have removed it from the IPC itself,” said Salelkar. “At the end of the day, suicide will still be a crime. This is what makes me uncomfortable about the bill.”

Dr Bhargavi Davar, another mental health activist, added that the decision to cite the cause of suicide as “severe stress” is dangerous because it allows a much larger range of people to be classified as mentally ill. “Mental illness is defined so broadly, any person is liable to be brought under the bill,” she said. “Who in urban areas is not stressed? Will they also be deemed mentally ill?”

She said that the earlier draft of the bill left open the option for people had attempted suicide but did not have any official diagnosis of mental illness to go to court to prevent themselves from being incarcerated in a mental institution. “How do you prove to the court that someone is not stressed?” she asked.

Both Davar and Salelkar believe that the solution would be to change the IPC, and not mention suicide in the Mental Health Care Bill at all.

Not a deterrent

Most psychiatrists agree that criminalising suicide is illogical. According to them, the law has never served as a deterrent to people wanting to take their own lives. The rate of suicides in India has steadily risen in the past five years.



“It is a good move to decriminalise suicide,” said Dr NN Raju, secretary of the Indian Psychiatric Society. “Suicide is a move taken to end suffering. They think it is the only option left to them. Society has an obligation to help them out, rather than labelling them as criminals.”

Dr Kedarnand Banerjee of the National Institute of Behavioural Sciences concurred. “Suicidal people are least bothered about legislation,” he said. “When the thought comes, it comes. Thinking about the law never stopped anyone from attempting suicide.”

While they welcomed the apparent decriminalisation of suicide, they too were not pleased with its being described as a mental illness.

Labelling suicide as a mental illness is inaccurate, according to Raju. “While severe stress doesn’t necessarily cause suicide, calling somebody mentally ill is not correct either,” he said. “Someone who tries to commit suicide may need the help of mental health professionals, certainly, but trying to commit suicide is not necessarily the result of inherent mental instability.”

According to National Crime Records Bureau figures, which are most likely under-representative, India’s rate of suicide, 11.2 per 100,000 in 2012, is far lower than the global rate of 16 per 100,000.

Within India, nuances emerge. More men kill themselves than women. According to an NCRB report, men kill themselves for economic reasons, while women kill themselves for personal reasons. Housewives formed 18.2 per cent of the total number of suicide attempts in 2012. This is more than over half of the women who were reported to have killed themselves in that year.

The top five specified occupations of those who committed suicide from 2001 to 2012 included housewives, farmers, those in private service, the unemployed and self-employed. These constitute 54 per cent of a total of 1.4 million people who killed themselves during this decade.



“It is necessary to understand that suicide is not an event,” said Johnson Thomas, who works with Mumbai-based suicide helpline Aasra. “It is not a one-time process. People go through different stages of stress and when it comes to a head, that is when they commit suicide.” Thomas, however, believes that the bill will be useful as it will force the government to take the responsibility of therapy after a failed suicide attempt, which is their stated intention.

Dangers of the bill

The social and political consequences of including suicide in the Mental Health Care Bill extend beyond just wrongful incarceration if the person survives, according to Salelkar. For instance, if a housewife were to survive a suicide attempt, they will be classified as mentally unstable and could have custody of their children taken away from them under the Juvenile Justice Act.

There are also cases in which pressure from in-laws for dowry is a pressing cause of women committing suicide. “When the case comes to trial, because she is deemed to be mentally ill, her evidence could become shaky,” said Salelkar. “Even if she doesn’t survive, the fact that suicide is filed under the Mental Health Care Act means that the family that might have abetted the suicide has some more room to wiggle out of being convicted.”

Political acts of protest are also likely to be prosecuted as before. Irom Sharmila has been on a hunger strike for ten years now. Each year, she is released from hospital custody for one day, then re-arrested under section 309 of the IPC. The government can choose to argue that Sharmila is not under severe stress. Since suicide has not been decriminalised, the government will not be obliged to release her from custody.

With this misguided attempt to help suicide survivors, experts say, the government has instead laid the ground open for them to be persecuted further.

 

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

Parents, don’t stress kids over exam results

Parents, don’t stress kids over exam results


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Parents, don’t stress kids over exam results
Experts in the city sound the alarm as suicide helplines get buzzing with frantic calls from students in the run up to the big result day.


It's just a short while away from the results of the biggest examinations — SSC and HSC — and already parents and their offspring have hit the panic button over what the outcome will be. While it is true that results can show the path towards a child's academic future, the pressure to do well is also making parents frenzied, over-stressed and high-strung. Student helplines have been ringing constantly and psychologists are seeing a rise in cases of student depression in the run-up to D-Day. While everything may be riding on this for young students, it is also a delicate stage in their lives, and parents often sadly forget this fact. "It's a time when parents conjure up worst-case scenarios and lay pressure on the child," says psychologist Malini Krishnan. "He or she is already nervous and parents too have anxieties, which is understandable. But if they are not careful as to what they say it will just add to a sense of failure and lead to breakdown in a child if he or she is vulnerable and on the edge," she warns.

Suicide rates on the rise
Sadly, while restlessness, loss of appetite and sleepless nights are just some of the symptoms, they can also manifest in suicidal feelings. Fear and distress have led to suicide in several cases (see box). "Suicide rates are on the increase," affirms Johnson Thomas, director of Aasra, a helpline that aids suicide prevention.

Latest figures from the organisation show that this year, the number of calls from students to the helpline is 30 a day. "These can be exam related or other factors can be involved," he says, adding, "The days before the result unavoidably bring about uneasiness, impatience, sleepless nights, loss of appetite and worry. Students have negative thoughts that if their percentage does not meet expectations, they might get humiliated. Often, what happens is when youngsters do confide their suicidal tendencies to their friends and family, the warning is usually not taken seriously and sometimes even brushed off as emotional blackmail. But, here is a child who is saying he or she is fed up, so the plea should never be ignored."

'Parents, you have given birth to a child, not a marksheet'
Social psychiatrist Dr Harish Shetty cautions against letting things go out of hand. "One exam does not define life," says Dr Shetty. It is not a milestone but a stone with many miles to go. Parents must share their anxieties with other parents and counsellors. Remind yourself that you have given birth to a child, not a marksheet." Adds Thomas, "It's the parents here who are in for learning. They need to be trained in parenting."

Krishnan feels parents ought to put themselves in their child's shoes. "In doing so they will be more conscious of what they are saying, and it will make them more aware of what the child goes through. Basically, they must convey they message that, 'I am with you'. They must show support to the child," she says.

One way out: get kids to do an activity
A study says exercise may help protect children from stress. Taking a walk, a swim, shopping, or even clearing the room can help dealing with worry.

Recent cases of suicide

1. This March, a news report mentioned that Rani Muniraju, a second-year pre-university student, hung herself. Apparently, she was worried she wouldn't clear her Business Studies paper and was "very depressed".

2. In Surat, four students of Class X and XII committed suicide this March, apparently due to Board exam stress.
3. This March, a 19-year-old engineering student committed suicide after jumping off a highrise at Thakur Village in Kandivli (E). He had sent a text message to his mother saying he couldn't cope with college studies.

4. In May in Chennai, three cases were reported as the results of final exams began coming out. In the first incident, a class IX student, Abirami, hung herself from the ceiling. In the second, in Velachery, Meera (17), who was awaiting Plus Two results, set herself ablaze and in the third, Shyam Immanuel (17), awaiting Plus Two results, consumed pesticide at his house.

Saturday, June 14, 2014

Coping with the stress of Exam results(HeadsUp) AASRA





Waiting for exam results can be a scary time; it's like you have an appointment with fear! As the hype starts to ratchet up, your stomach may very well start to churn. Of course this is normal. It is to be expected that you feel stressed, nervous, panicky and anxious. You may not even realise that you are feeling the effects of stress. Have a look around this section of the site to see how to recognise and manage stress. If you feel like you would like to talk to someone send us a free text and we'll text you back a list of helplines and support services. Just call AASRA 91-22-27546669
Good luck with your exam results from all at AASRA!
  • Recognising stress 
  • What causes stress around exam results time? 
  • What you can do before the exam results?
  • How to manage stress after you get your exam results
  • FAQs
Recognising stress
Waiting for exam results can be a scary time; it's like you have an appointment with fear! As the hype starts to ratchet up, your stomach may very well start to churn. Of course this is normal. It is to be expected that you feel stressed, nervous, panicky and anxious. You may not even realise that you are feeling the effects of stress. The stress of waiting for exam results could mean that you are experiencing the following:
  • Difficulty in concentrating
  • Headaches, abdominal pain, tightness in your chest, pounding heart or breathing difficulties
  • Difficulty in getting to sleep at night
  • Recurring nightmares
  • Abnormal eating habits – eating more than usual or having no appetite for food
  • Irritability
  • Loss of sense of humour and a feeling that things are out of proportion
  • Increased intake of coffee 
  • Increase in number of cigarettes smoked
  • Negative thoughts
  • Withdrawal from friends and social situations
  • Lack of motivation
  • Overly tired despite adequate sleep
  • Feeling run-down
For more information on stress, check out the Understanding Stress fact sheet click here.
What causes stress around exam results time? 
Apart from the obvious fear of receiving results that are not what you expected, a lot of other factors are at play during this time. These include:
  • Wanting to obtain results that reflect the work you put into your studies
  • Pressure to fulfil the expectations of others
  • The need to obtain results to progress to the next step in your career, the course, university or area of work of your choice
  • The fact that these exams results may signify a new phase in your life. You may be leaving home, leaving your friends, leaving the country or changing your normal routine
  • The whole uncertainty of your decisions – have you chosen the right course for you, have you made the right decision?
  • Wanting to get results similar to your friends and peers
  • Fear of failure
What you can do before the exam results?
Look after yourself: In the days leading up to the exam results try to allocate some time for relaxation. This is really important as we often are too busy or too worked-up to think about taking a certain amount of time to just do something that relaxes you. This could include a long soak in a bubble bath, a walk by the beach, time spent on your Xbox or Playstation or just listening to your favourite music. It will be different for everyone and that's ok as long as you know what relaxes you and you put the time aside for that activity. For information on quick stress relief techniques, go to the Immediate Stress Reduction Techniques fact sheet and theRelaxation fact sheet 

Exercise: Exercise is an excellent way of dealing with stress and pressure. You may find it difficult to start exercising but hormones such as endorphins released during exercise help you feel better about yourself and the challenges you face.
Talk to your friends: Consider talking to your friends who no doubt are going through similar feelings as you.
Acknowledge your feelings: During this time you may feel anxious, nervous, excited, hopeless, nauseous or down. It's important that you recognise how you are feeling and express those feelings. If you feel you don't want to talk to someone about them, consider keeping a journal or expressing it through art. Check out our Art from the Heart section that allows you to express your feelings anonymously through art. http://www.headsup.ie/heart/
Realise your own expectations: Take time to realistically consider your expectations for your exam results. Find out what results you would be happy with based on your own targets and not on the expectations of others. What subjects are you good at? What results are you hoping for in that subject? What subjects are you not so strong at? And what results would you be happy with in these subjects? Remember everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
Address the unrealistic expectations of others: If you feel your stress is the result of the unrealistic expectations of others, sit them down and talk to them about what you feel is realistic and why. Dealing with the unrealistic expectations of others can be very difficult to cope with. Once this expectation is discussed and managed properly, it can be a huge relief. Assertiveness can be a very helpful skill in getting your point across; to learn about assertiveness skills, check out the Assertiveness module in the Self Help section.
Consult a GP: If you feel like the stress you are experiencing is impacting negatively on your daily life and normal activities, consult a GP for further advice and treatment.
How to manage stress after you get your exam results
Once you get your exam results, the immediate stress may be reduced. Congratulations! The wait is over and now you can consider your next step. Some people will be celebrating; others may be a bit disappointed but it is important to consider the following:

After you receive your exams results, trust yourself and have the confidence to know you did your best: It can be easy to look back over your study time and think 'I could have done more' but this is not a very useful thing to do. Retrospective thinking may not always be realistic thinking.
One person's disappointment is another person's success: Remember that everyone has different expectations of themselves and goals in life. Be aware of this during the exam results period.
Put your results into perspective: Whether you have achieved the results you expected or not, remember that exams are stepping stones to something bigger. Exams are not always goals in themselves; they can be a means to a goal. Stepping stones can be of different sizes and sometimes may be difficult but the important thing is for them to be used productively to reach where you want to be. Marks should not be the goal; they only help you reach the next class or a level closer to your desired career. If you are disappointed about your results, your goal does not need to change but how you reach that goal may be different. Check out the goal setting fact sheet in the well-being section. http://www.headsup.ie/goalsetting.php
Learn to disassociate your performances from who you are: Everyone is made up of a lot of abilities and skills. Exams judge skills and knowledge; they are not a judgement about a person or a reflection of a person's self-worth. Remember this, it is important. If you find yourself thinking negatively recently, check out the Noticing Unhelpful Thinking and Changing Unhelpful Thinking modules in the Self Help section. http://www.headsup.ie/selfhelp/index.php
Treat yourself: The exam results are a stressful time and the hours of work put into achieving them deserves a reward. Whether you are delighted or disappointed with your results, allow yourself the time to treat yourself. If big celebrations are planned, be careful around your alcohol intake. Visit www.drinkaware.ie for more information.
Explore your options for the future: Now that you have your exam results, take the time to consider your options. Check out the goal-planning fact sheet in the Well-being section. http://www.headsup.ie/goalsetting.php
Queries about results: If you have any queries in relation to your results, the National Parents Council (Post-Primary) provides a free helpline that provides advice and guidance to students. The helpline can be accessed on 1800 265 165 from Wednesday 17th and Thursday 18th August from 8am until 7pm. The helpline is also available following the issue of the CAO offers on Monday 22nd and Tuesday 23rd August from 8am until 7pm.
Outside Help: If you are feeling down as a result of your exam results and would like to talk to someone in confidence, Call AASRA 91-22-27546669.
Frequently Asked Questions

How can I prepare mentally for receiving my Leaving Cert results?
Looking after your general mental health is something we should always do but especially around stressful periods. There are a lot of things you can do to prepare mentally for your leaving cert results. Set aside relaxation time and include rest in your daily schedule. Do not allow other obligations to take up time set aside for relaxation. This is your time to take a break from all responsibilities and to recharge your batteries.
  • Connect with others. Spend time with positive people who enhance your life. A strong support system will buffer you from the negative effects of stress. 
  • Do something you enjoy every day. Make time for leisure activities that bring you joy, whether it be exercising, listening to music or dancing or any of the suggestions listed above. 
  • Keep your sense of humour. This includes the ability to laugh at yourself. The act of laughing helps your body fight stress in a number of ways.
Learn the relaxation response
You can control your stress levels with relaxation techniques that evoke the body's relaxation response, a state of restfulness that is the opposite of the stress response. Regularly practicing these techniques will build your physical and emotional resilience. To learn more about relaxation techniques that reduce stress, go to the Relaxation Practices that Reduce Stress fact sheet. \

Adopt a healthy lifestyle
You can increase your resistance to stress by strengthening your physical health. The following can help with strengthening your physical health:
  • Exercise regularly. Physical activity plays a key role in reducing and preventing the effects of stress. Make time for at least 30 minutes of exercise, three times per week. Nothing beats aerobic exercise for releasing pent-up stress and tension. 
  • Eat a healthy diet. Well-nourished bodies are better prepared to cope with stress, so be mindful of what you eat. Start your day right with breakfast, and keep your energy up and your mind clear with balanced, nutritious meals throughout the day. 
  • Reduce caffeine and sugar. The temporary "highs" caffeine and sugar provide often end with a crash in mood and energy. By reducing the amount of coffee, soft drinks, chocolate, and sugar snacks in your diet, you will feel more relaxed and you will sleep better. 
  • Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs. Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs may provide an easy escape from stress, but the relief is only temporary. Don't avoid or mask the issue at hand; deal with problems head on and with a clear mind. 
  • Get enough sleep. Adequate sleep fuels your mind, as well as your body. Feeling tired will increase your stress because it may cause you to think irrationally.
How can I relieve the stress of exams results day?
In the build-up to receiving your Leaving Cert results there are many things you can do to ensure that you are as stress-free as possible. If you have been keeping a stress diary, you will know what type of things stresses you out, how you react to stress and how to best deal with stress.
If you have not been keeping a stress diary, you can still benefit from stress relief techniques. There are many healthy ways to manage and cope with stress. You can either change the situation or change your reaction. When deciding which option to choose, it's helpful to think of the four As: Avoid, Alter, Adapt, or Accept.
Avoid the stressor, which means changing the situation
Alter the stressor, which means changing certain aspects of the stressor
Adapt to the stressor, which means changing your reaction to the stressor
Accept the stressor, which means accepting the stressful issue in your life and learning from it.
You cannot change the fact that the Leaving Cert results will arrive but you can alter the stressor, adapt the stressor or accept the stressor. For example, if the idea of going into the school to collect your results, meet your teachers and friends causes you stress then get your results online or via telephone.
In order to adapt the stressor you could adapt how you think about the Leaving Cert results. Instead of seeing them as a major milestone, view them as one step to where you want to be in your future life and career.
In order to accept the stressor, just acknowledge that getting exams results is a stressful time but something that a lot of people go through in order to get to the next point in their lives.
Suppose all my friends do better than me, how can I show that I am happy for them if I'm disappointed with my results?
It can be difficult experiencing mixed emotions. On one hand you are disappointed with your own results but happy for your friends. Remember these people are your friends. Just tell them how you feel. Honest conversations between friends are what keep friendships alive. Don't let this situation be any different from others.
Are there any physical signs to show that I'm stressed? How do I deal with these?
There are some physical signs that may indicate that you are stressed. These include some of the following:
  • Headaches
  • Aches and pains
  • Indigestion
  • Feeling faint
  • Constant fatigue
  • Dizziness
  • Blurred vision
  • Diarrhoea or constipation
  • Nausea, dizziness
  • Chest pain, rapid heartbeat, tightness in chest
  • Loss of sex drive
  • Frequent colds
These physical symptoms of stress can be alleviated by taking time out to relax and distress. For tips on quick stress relief techniques click here.
If these physical symptoms are persistent, consult your GP.
What are the emotional symptoms that indicate I'm stressed? How do I deal with these?
Some of the emotional symptoms of stress include the following:
  • Moodiness
  • Irritability or short temper
  • Agitation, inability to relax
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Sense of loneliness and isolation
  • Depression or general unhappiness
In order to deal with these symptoms, take some time to relax and look after yourself. Do something you enjoy and that takes your mind off all your worries. Talk to someone you can trust and tell them exactly how you are feeling. If you would prefer to talk to someone you do not know, free text HEADSUP to 50424 for a list of support organisations.
Do you have any tips for relaxing in advance of the results?
As the day of the result approaches, ensure you look after your mental health. Adapting a positive attitude is very helpful. Check out the Noticing Unhelpful Thinking and Changing Unhelpful Thinking modules in the Self Help section.
Make some time for relaxation. Some healthy ways to relax could include some of the following:
  • Go for a walk 
  • Spend time in nature 
  • Call a good friend 
  • Sweat out tension with a good workout 
  • Write in your diary 
  • Take a long bath 
  • Light scented candles 
  • Savour a warm cup of coffee or tea
  • Get a massage 
  • Curl up with a good book 
  • Listen to music 
  • Watch a comedy
Find out what relaxation techniques work for you and include them in your daily routine. Also make time for friends or family members that are supportive and positive.
How can I support a friend who is stressed? 
Stress is not something we can solve for our friends but we can support them by:
Being there to listen to their problems and worries
Accepting that their moodiness is not designed to hurt you; your friend may not even know that they are being moody
Encouraging them to take time out with you to do something fun, be that going out, shopping, exercising or just chatting
Sharing any stress management tips that you find useful
Sharing any relaxation techniques that you find helpful
Other Helplines
If you feel overwhelmed and would like to speak to someone, or if you would like to speak to someone about other difficulties that may be affecting you, call AASRA 91-22-27546669 for support.

Thursday, June 5, 2014

World Environment day

Today is World Environment day and the Universal theme this year is ' RAISE your VOICE , not the SEA levels'





Wednesday, May 21, 2014

Four students questioned by police and cleared after bullied girl, 15, kills herself and names them in tormented suicide note saying 'thanks for all the pain'

Stop Bullying...Bullying is a sign of low self-esteem and complexed self-image- a sign of weakness as they say

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2634094/Girl-15-bullied-years-kills-leaving-suicide-note-naming-tormenters.html


  • Cora Delille hanged herself in her family's Ohio home on May 10
  • In a suicide note, she named four students, including two ex-boyfriends
  • Friends say she endured name-calling in the halls at school and one student even said she was glad she was dead
  • But police said they interviewed the students named in the note and found evidence of 'name-calling' - but nothing to warrant prosecution
  • Cora, whose boyfriend had broken up with her the day before she died, also wrote about feeling unloved at home amid her parents' divorce
A 15-year-old girl who was bullied by classmates for years has killed herself after naming her tormenters in a suicide note and telling them: 'Thanks for all the pain.'
Cora Delille's body was found by a family member at their home in Pickerington, Ohio on May 10 after she hanged herself, Commander Matt Delp of Pickerington Police said.
She left an emotional note giving a 'myriad of reasons' why she took her life, including classmates calling her names and feeling abandoned by her father and stepfather, he told MailOnline.
'There were complex issues,' Delp explained. 'She wrote about her home life and feeling unloved. Her mother and stepfather - the father she had known for 14 years - were getting a divorce. Her boyfriend had broken up with her the day before. There were many reasons.'
Tragic: Cora Delille, 15, hanged herself on May 10 after enduring years of bullying, her friends have said

YOUR EXAM RESULTS MAY NOT BE WHAT YOU FANCIED IT TO BE..

YOUR EXAM RESULTS MAY NOT BE WHAT YOU FANCIED IT TO BE..

I’m not telling you it is going to be easy — I’m telling you it’s going to be worth it” ~ Art Williams
The most painful thing to experience is not defeat but regret” ~ Leo Bascaglia
Doubt whom you will, but never doubt yourself.” ~ Christian Nestell Bovee
Tough times never last, but tough people do.” ~ Robert H. Schuller
Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” ~ Carl Bard
Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.” ~ Thomas Edison

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Teen Barred From Facebook Kills Herself By Vibhuti Agarwal/ India real time/ Wall Street Journal


http://blogs.wsj.com/indiarealtime/2013/10/25/indian-teen-barred-from-facebook-kills-herself/

Thursday, December 5, 2013 10:28:37 GMT


India Real Time

Teen Barred From Facebook Kills Herself


Paul Sakuma/Associated Press
The suicide of a teenage girl in Mumbai after she was barred from FacebookFB +1.04% puts the spotlight on India’s teenage suicide trend.
The parents of a 17-year-old Indian girl who killed herself late Wednesday after they barred her from Facebook, have said that they are in deep shock at her death and simply wanted her to concentrate more on her studies.
Aishwarya S. Dahiwal, a second-year college student from Parbhani in the western Indian state of Maharashtra, had asked her parents’ consent to log on to Facebook Wednesday night, police investigating the case said.
An argument ensued during which Ms. Dahiwal was reproached by her parents for “paying less attention to her studies,” using social networking sites and making long phone calls to friends, G.H. Lemgude, the investigating police officer in Parbhani told India Real Time Friday.
Her body was found on Thursday morning. She had killed herself by hanging, the police said.
Ms. Dahiwal’s death has once again put the spotlight on the teenage suicide trend in Maharashtra, one of India’s most developed states.
A total of 16,112 people killed themselves in the state last year, placing it second in the list of Indian states with the highest suicide rate, according to the National Crime Records Bureau. Tamil Nadu was the state with the most, there were 16,927 suicides there in 2012, followed by West Bengal with 14,957 and Karnataka where 12,753 took their own lives.
According to information available on the NCRB website, family problems were thought to be the single largest factor driving people to end their lives.
In a note recovered from Ms. Dahiwal’s room after her death, according to police, the teenager wrote that her parents’ decision not to allow her to access Facebook had driven her to decide to take her own life.
Her father Sunil Dahiwal told India Real Time Friday: “We still can’t believe it. We are in deep shock.”
“We just wanted her to focus on her studies. We never thought she would ever take such a harsh step,” Mr. Dahiwal added.
A case of accidental death has been registered and investigation is underway, the police said.
Johnson Thomas, director of Aasra, a Mumbai-based helpline that works towards prevention of suicides, said the problems presently faced by young people range from peer and academic pressure to lack of communication with parents and broken relationships.
In June, a 25-year-old Bollywood actor Jiah Khan committed suicide after an alleged failed relationship.
In a separate incident, a teenager ended her life last month in Mumbai, she was experiencing depression after her mother’s death, local reports said.
“The fact that majority of suicides are by those between 15 and 35 years imposes a huge social, emotional and economic burden on society,” Mr. Johnson said.
He also blamed the breakdown of India’s traditional family system for people taking their own lives.
In big cities like Mumbai – where it is common for both parents to work – children tend to become isolated and spend too much time chatting with friends on cellphone and using social networking sites like Facebook, Twitter and others, according to Mr. Johnson.
survey by Tata Consultancy Services in June showed nearly 92% India’s high school students prefer to go on Facebook than make phone calls to communicate.
Mr. Johnson argues there’s a simple solution. “Parents should take out more time to understand the needs of their children, communicate better a build a strong relationship with them. This will greatly alleviate the problem.”
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